I have never joined a parenting community to mock or to vilify another mother or group of parents.
I have never directly quoted another mother in a negative way to prove my point or to bully.
I have never intended to hurt other mothers no matter their view on parenting or childbirth.
I usually allude to but don’t link to websites or forums I feel are bullying or trolling.
This blog post was written with no other intentions other then to flame, bully and troll. It has taken posts completely out of context simply to mock and humiliate.
And the writer is a doula! How unprofessional!
Why am I writing this? Why am I getting so upset about it? Because it is yet another example of someone demanding respect for their opinions and choices without returning the favour.
You want respect? Then give it. I wouldn’t have cared if it had of been a post about how some women chose cesareans and how it is still a birth and should be recognized as such. My son was born via the ‘sunroof’ as some like to call it. It was still a birth, he was born, he didn’t just appear. Now it wasn’t a natural birth by any stretch of the imagination but he was born, we certainly won’t be celebrating his surgery day or Caesar day, it’s his birthday.
But why get personal? Why bully?
And why join a website just to troll or for the lulz as this doula has said.
I personally wouldn’t want to be hiring a doula who trolled homebirth forums for the lulz.
If you don’t like a community don’t join. If you don’t want to actively contribute to a healthy discussion about birth, don’t sign up.
And if you think you’re being clever accusing loving and supportive women of being cruel and nasty, well you’re not.
Flame me all you want, I know what sort of a person I am. I give friends planning births all the facts at my disposal but at the end of the day the choices are theirs not mine and if they chose a Caesar then I will be cheering them on all the way and hoping they have a wonderful experience.
I don’t love surgical births, but I believe all women should be entitled to birth how they want to, not how someone tells them to. Not me, not websites, not doulas, not midwives, not OBs. The decisions should rest with the mother and she should be informed and supported in her choices.