I love Elizabeth Pantley.
Truly, I do.
I had been breastfeeding my son to sleep every nap and every bedtime since day dot. Which was fine. Until it stopped working. And then he was up multiple times a night and waking ridiculously early.
At first I thought Wonder Week, and granted the WW did make things more difficult. But in reality the real issue was what had worked in the past was no longer working and as he became more aware of the world he needed to learn to fall asleep on his own so he could stay asleep without me.
Everything seemed to tell me either suck it up or cry it out. There had to be a way that was respectful to DS, fitted our attachment parenting principles and would help us work through our sleeping issues.
Now I’ve had The No-Cry Sleep Solution for a while and I had half-heartedly applied the principles every now and again but I was never committed. He was content breastfeeding to sleep, he would sleep long stretches and there was no need for big changes.
Until it all changed.
Fact is no one can run on minimal sleep forever. It doesn’t work. Feeling tired and cranky and being frustrated and angry fits about as well with my parenting philosophy as controlled crying does.
So at 4am one morning I picked the book up off the shelf and wrote in pen, that’s how serious I was , our plan. I wrote the nightly routine, the ways if encourage naps, our sleepy words (“good night Sam”), and I committed to the Pantley pull off plan.
It took a good 8 weeks. We moved onto the next phase of the plan once we were both comfortable and confident with the last one. There was no rushing through it. It was one step at a time.
And there have been bumps in the road, teeth have come through, hot sticky Townsville nights, and holidays with family including a virus that just threw a big spanner in the works, not to mention WWs which always slow any progress. But progress we have made and I can now saw at tired signs I scoop him up, lots of cuddles, fresh nappy, more cuddles, into bed with lullaby puppy switched on to cut out the noisy toddler, good night Sam and off to bed.
It has worked! Up once overnight and settles quickly and waking at a reasonable hour each morning.
To those who are using the No-Cry Sleep Solution it is well worth sticking with it. You may be a week or so in and thinking that you’re getting no where fast and it’s not worth all this effort. It’s not as instant as controlled crying methods because it goes at the babies pace. It follows her lead and only moves to the next step when she’s ready. It’s all about making small changes gradually. And without the guilt.
Throughout the whole process I never worried that I was pushing him too far or too fast because he set the pace. If he wasn’t ready to be settled out of my arms yet, then we didn’t. Simple as that.
If you’re ready to make changes and want to change your baby’s sleep habits in a way that is respectful to the needs of both of you. Then check the book out.
I’ll be reading the No-Cry Discipline Solution soon .